Gratulujeme, ste star\u00fd rodi\u010d! Je to ve\u013ek\u00e1 udalos\u0165 - a mo\u017eno ste ju o\u010dak\u00e1vali u\u017e dlho.\n<\/p>\n
T\u00e1to zmena v\u0161ak prin\u00e1\u0161a v\u00fdzvy, ale aj rados\u0165. Tu je nieko\u013eko tipov, ktor\u00e9 v\u00e1m pom\u00f4\u017eu vyhn\u00fa\u0165 sa be\u017en\u00fdm n\u00e1strah\u00e1m nov\u00fdch star\u00fdch rodi\u010dov a zvl\u00e1dnu\u0165 svoju \u00falohu s nadh\u013eadom a gr\u00e1ciou.\n<\/p>\n
Mnoh\u00ed nast\u00e1vaj\u00faci rodi\u010dia za\u017e\u00edvaj\u00fa hne\u010f od za\u010diatku nap\u00e4tie alebo pocit, \u017ee s\u00fa rozpolten\u00ed medzi dvoma - alebo dokonca tromi \u010di \u0161tyrmi - skupinami star\u00fdch rodi\u010dov, ktor\u00ed presadzuj\u00fa svoje \u017eelania. Je to recept na stres, ktor\u00fd bud\u00faci rodi\u010dia ur\u010dite nepotrebuj\u00fa.\n<\/p>\n
Zosta\u0148te \u010do najviac pozit\u00edvni, bu\u010fte flexibiln\u00ed a nechajte sa un\u00e1\u0161a\u0165 pr\u00fadom. S\u00fastre\u010fte sa sk\u00f4r na podporu nast\u00e1vaj\u00facich rodi\u010dov, ne\u017e na to, aby ste im hovorili, \u010do chcete - ocenia to.\n<\/p>\n
Pri n\u00e1v\u0161tev\u00e1ch, najm\u00e4 pri tak d\u00f4le\u017eitej prvej n\u00e1v\u0161teve die\u0165a\u0165a, bu\u010fte citliv\u00ed. Je mo\u017en\u00e9, \u017ee v\u00e1s nepozv\u00fa k p\u00f4rodu alebo nepr\u00eddu do nemocnice \u010di p\u00f4rodnice hne\u010f po \u0148om. Neurazte sa - je to rozhodnutie nov\u00fdch rodi\u010dov a do ich rozhodnutia mohlo vst\u00fapi\u0165 mnoho faktorov, o ktor\u00fdch ste mo\u017eno nevedeli.\n<\/p>\n
Pravdepodobne sa budete deli\u0165 o povinnosti star\u00fdch rodi\u010dov s nieko\u013ek\u00fdmi \u010fal\u0161\u00edmi \u013eu\u010fmi, ale sna\u017ete sa nezasahova\u0165 do vz\u0165ahu ostatn\u00fdch star\u00fdch rodi\u010dov s nov\u00fdm die\u0165a\u0165om. Nie je to s\u00fa\u0165a\u017e o to, kto bude najlep\u0161\u00edm star\u00fdm rodi\u010dom - va\u0161ou \u00falohou je len by\u0165 najlep\u0161\u00edm star\u00fdm rodi\u010dom, ak\u00fdm m\u00f4\u017eete by\u0165, a nie stara\u0165 sa o to, \u010do robia ostatn\u00ed star\u00ed rodi\u010dia.\n<\/p>\n
Nov\u00ed rodi\u010dia nechc\u00fa obriezku? Chc\u00fa pomenova\u0165 svoje die\u0165a nie\u010d\u00edm, \u010do pod\u013ea v\u00e1s znie hl\u00fapo? Pl\u00e1nuj\u00fa vysk\u00fa\u0161a\u0165 odstavenie die\u0165a\u0165a od prsn\u00edka? \u00daprimne, nie je to v\u00e1\u0161 probl\u00e9m.\n<\/p>\n
Bez oh\u013eadu na to, ko\u013eko det\u00ed ste vychovali a ako sa vyv\u00edjali, v\u00fdchovu det\u00ed m\u00e1 teraz na starosti va\u0161e dospel\u00e9 die\u0165a a jeho partner. Bu\u010fte opatrn\u00ed v pon\u00fakan\u00fdch n\u00e1zoroch alebo rad\u00e1ch, pokia\u013e v\u00e1s o ne priamo nepo\u017eiadaj\u00fa. A aj vtedy postupujte opatrne a vyjadrujte sa jemne.\n<\/p>\n
\"V\u0161etko je to o re\u0161pektovan\u00ed hran\u00edc, \" hovor\u00ed rodinn\u00e1 terapeutka Christine Lawlorov\u00e1, ktor\u00e1 pomohla mnoh\u00fdm rodin\u00e1m rie\u0161i\u0165 probl\u00e9my spojen\u00e9 so star\u00fdmi rodi\u010dmi. \"Ka\u017ed\u00fd rodi\u010d je in\u00fd a je na va\u0161om die\u0165ati, aby sa nau\u010dilo, \u010do mu vyhovuje.\";\n<\/p>\n
Je \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 udr\u017ea\u0165 si zips na per\u00e1ch, ke\u010f po\u010dujete veci, s ktor\u00fdmi nes\u00fahlas\u00edte, od toho, ak\u00fd p\u00f4rod rodi\u010dia pl\u00e1nuj\u00fa, a\u017e po to, o akom druhu starostlivosti o die\u0165a uva\u017euj\u00fa. Ale mus\u00edte.\n<\/p>\n
Ak sa pok\u00fasite zasiahnu\u0165 s opa\u010dn\u00fdm n\u00e1zorom, staviate sa do poz\u00edcie protivn\u00edka, hovor\u00ed newyorsk\u00e1 rodinn\u00e1 terapeutka Sharon O'Neillov\u00e1, autorka knihy Kr\u00e1tky sprievodca \u0161\u0165astn\u00fdm man\u017eelstvom. \u010casom si tak na\u0161trb\u00edte vz\u0165ah s nov\u00fdmi rodi\u010dmi a vn\u00fa\u010datami.\n<\/p>\n
Nechajte bud\u00facich rodi\u010dov experimentova\u0165 - nie ka\u017ed\u00e9 rozhodnutie, ktor\u00e9 urobia, zostane v platnosti. A nie v\u0161etko, \u010do urobia, mus\u00ed vyvola\u0165 reakciu. Niekedy len nahlas prem\u00fd\u0161\u013eaj\u00fa. \"Nechajte ich r\u00e1s\u0165 v ich rodi\u010dovsk\u00fdch rol\u00e1ch, \" hovor\u00ed Lawlor.\n<\/p>\n
A nakoniec, \u017eiadne \u0161kodoradostn\u00e9 alebo \"Ja som v\u00e1m to hovoril\", ke\u010f nie\u010do, s \u010d\u00edm ste nes\u00fahlasili, nefunguje. Ka\u017ed\u00fd sa mus\u00ed nau\u010di\u0165 veci s\u00e1m.\n<\/p>\n
Ke\u010f je na ceste nov\u00e9 vn\u00fa\u010da, je l\u00e1kav\u00e9 vyrazi\u0165 na n\u00e1kupy. Predt\u00fdm sa v\u0161ak bud\u00facich rodi\u010dov op\u00fdtajte, \u010do potrebuj\u00fa, \u010do nechc\u00fa a \u010di existuje register det\u00ed alebo zoznam \u017eelan\u00ed, do ktor\u00e9ho m\u00f4\u017eete nahliadnu\u0165, ne\u017e nie\u010do k\u00fapite.\n<\/p>\n
Niektor\u00ed nast\u00e1vaj\u00faci rodi\u010dia v\u00edtaj\u00fa v\u0161etky dar\u010deky, ale in\u00ed si rad\u0161ej vyberaj\u00fa oble\u010denie, hra\u010dky a v\u00fdbavu sami. M\u00f4\u017eu by\u0165 aj in\u00e9 faktory, ktor\u00e9 zva\u017euj\u00fa, napr\u00edklad bl\u00ed\u017eiace sa s\u0165ahovanie alebo obmedzen\u00fd priestor.\n<\/p>\n
Niektor\u00ed rodi\u010dia sa riadia filozofiou \"menej je viac\" a nechc\u00fa zaplni\u0165 svoje domovy objemnou detskou v\u00fdbavou, aspo\u0148 nie hne\u010f. In\u00ed uprednost\u0148uj\u00fa finan\u010dn\u00fa pomoc alebo pr\u00edspevky na sporiaci \u00fa\u010det.\n<\/p>\n
Tak ve\u013emi ste sa te\u0161ili na nov\u00e9 b\u00e1b\u00e4tko - a potom neprestajne narieka, kedyko\u013evek ho m\u00e1te v n\u00e1ru\u010d\u00ed, a ignoruje va\u0161e vrk\u00fatanie a vesel\u00e9 tv\u00e1ri\u010dky. Je to ur\u010dite sklamanie, ale netr\u00e1pte sa t\u00fdm, \u017ee v\u00e1\u0161 vz\u0165ah bude v\u017edy tak\u00fdto skalopevn\u00fd.\n<\/p>\n
\"Samozrejme, \u017ee m\u00f4\u017eete o\u010dak\u00e1va\u0165, \u017ee budete ma\u0165 so svoj\u00edm vn\u00fa\u010da\u0165om n\u00e1dhern\u00fd vz\u0165ah, ale nestane sa to automaticky,\" hovor\u00ed Amy Goyerov\u00e1, expertka na viacgenera\u010dn\u00e9 rodiny pre AARP a autorka knihy Things to Do Now That You're a Grandparent. \"Vy\u017eaduje si to \u010das a pr\u00e1cu a nemus\u00ed sa to v\u017edy podoba\u0165 obrazu, ktor\u00fd m\u00e1te v hlave.\"\n<\/p>\n
Sna\u017ete sa vyhn\u00fa\u0165 konkr\u00e9tnym o\u010dak\u00e1vaniam - m\u00f4\u017eu by\u0165 receptom na sklamanie. Namiesto toho sa s\u00fastre\u010fte na pomal\u00e9 a prirodzen\u00e9 spozn\u00e1vanie svojho vn\u00fa\u010da\u0165a. H\u013eadajte \u010do najviac sp\u00f4sobov, ako sa zapoji\u0165 do jeho \u017eivota. Ak kri\u010dia, ke\u010f v\u00e1m ich pod\u00e1vaj\u00fa, sk\u00fa\u0161ajte to \u010falej. Mo\u017eno len potrebuj\u00fa \u010das, aby sa z\u017eili s niek\u00fdm in\u00fdm ako s rodi\u010dmi.\n<\/p>\n
Zvykli ste si, \u017ee vy ste t\u00ed, ktor\u00ed maj\u00fa v\u0161etko na starosti, ale tentoraz je na rade va\u0161e die\u0165a. To m\u00f4\u017ee by\u0165 nepr\u00edjemn\u00e9, ale mo\u017eno sa v\u00e1m zd\u00e1, \u017ee t\u00e1to v\u00fdmena rol\u00ed je aj osvie\u017euj\u00faca. Koniec koncov, s autoritou prich\u00e1dza aj zodpovednos\u0165. Teraz je rad na v\u00e1s, aby ste robili, \u010do sa v\u00e1m povie - a nestarali sa o to, \u010di je to najlep\u0161\u00ed sp\u00f4sob.\n<\/p>\n
Ak m\u00e1 va\u0161e vn\u00fa\u010da zau\u017e\u00edvan\u00fd re\u017eim sp\u00e1nku a jedla, dbajte na jeho dodr\u017eiavanie, aj keby to znamenalo skr\u00e1tenie v\u00fdletu. \"Ak sa Sammy v\u017edy, ke\u010f ide s babi\u010dkou von, vr\u00e1ti domov vy\u010derpan\u00fd a mrzut\u00fd, tieto v\u00fdlety sa nebud\u00fa kona\u0165 tak \u010dasto, \" hovor\u00ed rodinn\u00fd terapeut O'Neill.\n<\/p>\n
Ak rodi\u010dia povedia, \u017ee zatia\u013e nemaj\u00fa prij\u00edma\u0165 \u017eiadnu pevn\u00fa stravu a \u017ee maj\u00fa ma\u0165 vypnut\u00fd telev\u00edzor, ke\u010f sa die\u0165a zobud\u00ed, re\u0161pektujte ich \u017eelanie. To ist\u00e9 plat\u00ed aj pre ich dom\u00e1ce pravidl\u00e1: Ak s\u00fa pr\u00edsni, \u010do sa t\u00fdka recykl\u00e1cie, nevyhadzujte plechovky do ko\u0161a.\n<\/p>\n
A ak si va\u0161e deti \u017eelaj\u00fa, aby ste sa dali zao\u010dkova\u0165, alebo v\u00e1s \u017eiadaj\u00fa, aby ste pri n\u00e1v\u0161teve prijali in\u00e9 zdravotn\u00e9 opatrenia, re\u0161pektujte to: Novorodenci s\u00fa obzvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 zranite\u013en\u00ed vo\u010di infekci\u00e1m, preto je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 urobi\u0165 v\u0161etko pre ich ochranu.\n<\/p>\n
Ak nov\u00ed rodi\u010dia nie s\u00fa v\u017edy l\u00e1skav\u00ed, ke\u010f v\u00e1m vysvet\u013euj\u00fa, \u010do maj\u00fa a \u010do nemaj\u00fa robi\u0165, alebo sa na v\u00e1s kv\u00f4li nie\u010domu hnevaj\u00fa, sna\u017ete sa zachova\u0165 chladn\u00fa hlavu. Pravdepodobne za to m\u00f4\u017ee nedostatok sp\u00e1nku - a stres z nov\u00e9ho rodi\u010dovstva.\n<\/p>\n
Je \u013eahk\u00e9 zabudn\u00fa\u0165 na to, ak\u00e9 ohromuj\u00face je by\u0165 nov\u00fdm rodi\u010dom a ak\u00e9 \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 m\u00f4\u017ee by\u0165 zvl\u00e1dnu\u0165 z\u00e1kladn\u00e9 veci. Pr\u00e1ve tu m\u00f4\u017eete zasiahnu\u0165 a zachr\u00e1ni\u0165 situ\u00e1ciu.\n<\/p>\n
Po\u010das n\u00e1v\u0161tev sa pon\u00faknite, \u017ee sa postar\u00e1te o vn\u00fa\u010da, k\u00fdm si rodi\u010dia zdriemnu alebo vybavia in\u00e9 z\u00e1le\u017eitosti. Sp\u00fdtajte sa, \u010di m\u00f4\u017eete pom\u00f4c\u0165 pri vybavovan\u00ed z\u00e1le\u017eitost\u00ed, pr\u00edprave jedla alebo upratovan\u00ed.\n<\/p>\n
Niektor\u00ed novope\u010den\u00ed rodi\u010dia sa zdr\u00e1haj\u00fa po\u017eiada\u0165 star\u00fdch rodi\u010dov o pomoc, tak\u017ee mo\u017eno dosiahnete lep\u0161ie v\u00fdsledky, ak sa jednoducho zapoj\u00edte a urob\u00edte, \u010do je potrebn\u00e9, napr\u00edklad napln\u00edte um\u00fdva\u010dku riadu alebo priprav\u00edte sendvi\u010de. Ak v\u0161ak potom poc\u00edtite nev\u00f4\u013eu, viac to nerobte - nie ka\u017ed\u00fd ocen\u00ed nevy\u017eiadan\u00fa pomoc.\n<\/p>\n
Pre nov\u00fdch rodi\u010dov m\u00f4\u017ee by\u0165 jednoduch\u0161ie, ak sa ubytujete v bl\u00edzkom hoteli ne\u017e u nich doma. Takto sa nebud\u00fa sna\u017ei\u0165 prevzia\u0165 na seba okrem rodi\u010dovsk\u00fdch povinnost\u00ed aj hostite\u013esk\u00e9 povinnosti.\n<\/p>\n
Stoj\u00ed za to op\u00fdta\u0165 sa vopred, hovor\u00ed Goyerov\u00e1 z AARP. \"V\u00e1\u0161 n\u00e1vrh sa m\u00f4\u017ee stretn\u00fa\u0165 s \u00fa\u013eavou, alebo m\u00f4\u017eu poveda\u0165, \u017ee to nie je potrebn\u00e9, ale vy ste t\u00fato mo\u017enos\u0165 pon\u00fakli, \" hovor\u00ed.\n<\/p>\n
Odpus\u0165te nov\u00fdm rodi\u010dom, \u017ee s\u00fa ohromen\u00ed a zah\u013eaden\u00ed do seba - je to prirodzen\u00e9. Va\u0161e die\u0165a pravdepodobne nebude ma\u0165 \u010das na veci, ktor\u00e9 ste predt\u00fdm robili spolu, a va\u0161e rozhovory sa bud\u00fa pravdepodobne aspo\u0148 na chv\u00ed\u013eu t\u00fdka\u0165 len die\u0165a\u0165a.\n<\/p>\n
Ak s t\u00fdm budete po\u010d\u00edta\u0165 a budete trpezliv\u00ed, je menej pravdepodobn\u00e9, \u017ee sa budete c\u00edti\u0165 zranen\u00ed alebo urazen\u00ed. A m\u00f4\u017eete by\u0165 pr\u00edjemne prekvapen\u00ed, ke\u010f sa novope\u010den\u00ed rodi\u010dia vynoria z hmly sp\u00e1nkovej depriv\u00e1cie a v\u0161etci si m\u00f4\u017eete u\u017ei\u0165 spolo\u010dn\u00fd \u010das.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Gratulujeme, ste star\u00fd rodi\u010d! Je to ve\u013ek\u00e1 udalos\u0165 - a mo\u017eno ste ju o\u010dak\u00e1vali u\u017e dlho. T\u00e1to zmena v\u0161ak prin\u00e1\u0161a v\u00fdzvy, ale aj rados\u0165. Tu je nieko\u013eko tipov, ktor\u00e9 v\u00e1m pom\u00f4\u017eu vyhn\u00fa\u0165 sa be\u017en\u00fdm n\u00e1strah\u00e1m nov\u00fdch star\u00fdch rodi\u010dov a zvl\u00e1dnu\u0165 svoju \u00falohu s nadh\u013eadom a gr\u00e1ciou. Pripravte p\u00f4du pre bezprobl\u00e9mov\u00e9 vz\u0165ahy Mnoh\u00ed nast\u00e1vaj\u00faci rodi\u010dia za\u017e\u00edvaj\u00fa […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":51846,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[97],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-51837","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-family"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51837","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=51837"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51837\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/51846"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=51837"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=51837"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/sk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=51837"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}