Dusm\u012bgs b\u0113rns, visticam\u0101k, izj\u016bt k\u0101du stresu. Galvenais uzdevums ir noskaidrot, kas to izraisa. Tas var b\u016bt pavisam vienk\u0101r\u0161s iemesls - b\u0113rns ir noguris un izsalcis, vai ar\u012b tas var b\u016bt daudz sare\u017e\u0123\u012bt\u0101ks. Da\u017ei izplat\u012bt\u0101kie iemesli, k\u0101p\u0113c b\u0113rns var b\u016bt dusm\u012bgs:\n<\/p>\n
Lai gan visi b\u0113rni reiz\u0113m ir dusm\u012bgi, ir da\u017eas paz\u012bmes, kas liecina, ka b\u0113rna dusmas ir p\u0101rm\u0113r\u012bgas. Aprun\u0101jieties ar savu b\u0113rnu ar \u0101rstu, ja vi\u0146a uzved\u012bba ir:\n<\/p>\n
Konsult\u0113jieties ar \u0101rstu ar\u012b tad, ja j\u016bsu b\u0113rns ir fiziski agres\u012bvs pret citiem b\u0113rniem, jums vai citiem pieaugu\u0161ajiem.\n<\/p>\n
Agresija ir norm\u0101la b\u0113rna att\u012bst\u012bbas sast\u0101vda\u013ca. Daudzi b\u0113rni pa\u0146em no klasesbiedriem rota\u013clietas, sit, sit, sit ar k\u0101j\u0101m vai br\u012b\u017eiem kliedz.\n<\/p>\n
Maz\u0101ks b\u0113rns joproj\u0101m apg\u016bst da\u017e\u0101das jaunas prasmes, s\u0101kot no \u0161\u0137\u0113r\u0113m un beidzot ar run\u0101\u0161anu sare\u017e\u0123\u012btos teikumos. Vi\u0146u smadzen\u0113s att\u012bst\u0101s galven\u0101s emociju regul\u0113\u0161anas prasmes, piem\u0113ram, impulsu kontrole. B\u0113rni var viegli izjust neapmierin\u0101t\u012bbu ar visu, ko vi\u0146i cen\u0161as paveikt, un galu gal\u0101 izcelties.\n<\/p>\n
Ja j\u016bsu b\u0113rns pirmo reizi apmekl\u0113 b\u0113rnud\u0101rzu vai pirmsskolas izgl\u012bt\u012bbas iest\u0101di, vi\u0146\u0161 ar\u012b pierod, ka ir prom no m\u0101j\u0101m. Ja vi\u0146\u0161 j\u016btas nervozs, vi\u0146\u0161 var rea\u0123\u0113t, uzm\u0101coties n\u0101kamajam b\u0113rnam, kas vi\u0146u kaitina.\n<\/p>\n
Citos gad\u012bjumos b\u0113rns var b\u016bt vienk\u0101r\u0161i noguris un izsalcis. Vi\u0146\u0161 nezina, k\u0101 to p\u0101rvar\u0113t, t\u0101p\u0113c rea\u0123\u0113 ar kodieniem, sitieniem vai dusmu l\u0113km\u0113m.\n<\/p>\n
Pat vec\u0101kam, skolas vecuma b\u0113rnam var b\u016bt gr\u016bt\u012bbas kontrol\u0113t savu temperamentu. M\u0101c\u012b\u0161an\u0101s probl\u0113mas var apgr\u016btin\u0101t klaus\u012b\u0161anos, koncentr\u0113\u0161anos vai las\u012b\u0161anu - tas var kav\u0113t vi\u0146u sniegumu skol\u0101 un izrais\u012bt neapmierin\u0101t\u012bbu. Vai ar\u012b, iesp\u0113jams, nesen notiku\u0161as p\u0101rmai\u0146as (piem\u0113ram, \u0161\u0137ir\u0161an\u0101s vai slim\u012bba \u0123imen\u0113) ir izrais\u012bju\u0161as vair\u0101k s\u0101pju un dusmu, nek\u0101 b\u0113rns sp\u0113j p\u0101rvar\u0113t.\n<\/p>\n
Lai k\u0101ds ar\u012b b\u016btu j\u016bsu b\u0113rna agresijas iemesls, iesp\u0113jams, ka ar laiku vi\u0146am izdosies att\u012bst\u012bt liel\u0101ku pa\u0161kontroli. Vi\u0146i iem\u0101c\u012bsies probl\u0113mas risin\u0101t ar v\u0101rdiem, nevis ar k\u0101j\u0101m un d\u016br\u0113m. Galvenais ir atbalst\u012bt vi\u0146u jaun\u0101s prasmes ar lielu paciet\u012bbu un iesp\u0113j\u0101m praktiz\u0113ties.\n<\/p>\n
Tom\u0113r ne visi b\u0113rni izaug no agresijas bez papildu pal\u012bdz\u012bbas. Aprun\u0101jieties ar savu b\u0113rnu ar \u0101rstu, ja j\u016bsu p\u016bles nedod rezult\u0101tu.\n<\/p>\n
Pirmk\u0101rt, skaidri nosakiet noteikumus, ka sitieni ir nepie\u0146emama uzved\u012bba. Ja j\u016bsu b\u0113rns sit citu b\u0113rnu, nekav\u0113joties atdaliet vi\u0146us un, pirms piev\u0113r\u0161aties savam b\u0113rnam, aprun\u0101jieties ar otru b\u0113rnu. Lai iem\u0101c\u012btu b\u0113rnam emp\u0101tiju, sakiet: \"Es zinu, ka tu esi dusm\u012bgs, bet nebied\u0113. Sitieni s\u0101p.\" Lai pal\u012bdz\u0113tu b\u0113rnam tikt gal\u0101 ar savu agresiju, izpildiet n\u0101kamaj\u0101 noda\u013c\u0101 aprakst\u012btos so\u013cus.\n<\/p>\n
Ja b\u0113rns jums sit, m\u0113\u0123iniet palikt p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas mier\u012bg\u0101ks. Past\u0101stiet, ka sitieni citiem cilv\u0113kiem nav pie\u0146emami, un pied\u0101v\u0101jiet alternat\u012bvu, piem\u0113ram, sitienu ar spilvenu vai pap\u012bra pl\u0113\u0161anu. Atk\u0101rtota agresija pret jums vai citiem pieaugu\u0161ajiem ir z\u012bme, ka j\u0101v\u0113r\u0161as pie b\u0113rna \u0101rsta.\n<\/p>\n
R\u0101diet piem\u0113ru. Lai cik dusm\u012bgi j\u016bs b\u016btu, centieties nekliegt un nesacelt b\u0113rnam, ka vi\u0146\u0161 ir slikts. T\u0101 viet\u0101, lai pan\u0101ktu, ka b\u0113rns maina savu uzved\u012bbu, t\u0101 vienk\u0101r\u0161i iem\u0101ca vi\u0146am, ka verb\u0101la un fiziska agresija ir veids, k\u0101 r\u012bkoties, kad vi\u0146\u0161 ir dusm\u012bgs. T\u0101 viet\u0101 r\u0101diet labu piem\u0113ru, kontrol\u0113jot savu temperamentu un vajadz\u012bbas gad\u012bjum\u0101 mier\u012bgi izvairoties no darb\u012bbas.\n<\/p>\n
Rea\u0123\u0113jiet \u0101tri. M\u0113\u0123iniet nekav\u0113joties rea\u0123\u0113t, kad redzat, ka b\u0113rns k\u013c\u016bst agres\u012bvs. Ir k\u0101rdino\u0161i gaid\u012bt, kam\u0113r vi\u0146\u0161 tr\u0101p\u012bs br\u0101lim tre\u0161o reizi, un tikai tad teikt: \"Pietiek!\"\" (it \u012bpa\u0161i tad, ja p\u0113d\u0113j\u0101 stund\u0101 jau esat vi\u0146am aizr\u0101d\u012bjis par neskait\u0101miem citiem p\u0101rk\u0101pumiem). Tom\u0113r vislab\u0101k ir uzreiz dar\u012bt vi\u0146iem zin\u0101mu, kad vi\u0146i ir izdar\u012bju\u0161i kaut ko nepareizu.\n<\/p>\n
Izvairiet vi\u0146us no situ\u0101cijas, lai pal\u012bdz\u0113tu vi\u0146iem nomierin\u0101ties. J\u016bs varat teikt \"Es redzu, ka jums \u0161obr\u012bd ir gr\u016bti kontrol\u0113t savu \u0137ermeni.\";\n<\/p>\n
Iev\u0113rojiet savu pl\u0101nu. Cik vien iesp\u0113jams, rea\u0123\u0113jiet uz agres\u012bv\u0101m darb\u012bb\u0101m katru reizi vien\u0101di. Jo paredzam\u0101ks b\u016bsiet, jo \u0101tr\u0101k izveidosiet modeli, ko b\u0113rns atpaz\u012bs un sagaid\u012bs. Atk\u0101rtoti saudz\u012bgi vadoties, ar laiku vi\u0146i iem\u0101c\u012bsies piem\u0113rot\u0101kas strat\u0113\u0123ijas, k\u0101 paust savas dusm\u012bg\u0101s j\u016btas.\n<\/p>\n
Pat ja j\u016bsu b\u0113rns dara ko t\u0101du, kas j\u016bs publiski apb\u0113dina, iev\u0113rojiet sp\u0113les pl\u0101nu. Liel\u0101k\u0101 da\u013ca vec\u0101ku saprot j\u016bsu situ\u0101ciju - vi\u0146i jau ir biju\u0161i \u0161aj\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101.\n<\/p>\n
Aprun\u0101jieties ar savu skolas vecuma b\u0113rnu. \u013baujiet b\u0113rnam atdzist un tad mier\u012bgi p\u0101rrun\u0101jiet notiku\u0161o. Vislab\u0101k to dar\u012bt p\u0113c tam, kad b\u0113rns ir nomierin\u0101jies, bet pirms vi\u0146\u0161 visu ir aizmirsis - ide\u0101l\u0101kais laiks ir 30 min\u016btes l\u012bdz stunda v\u0113l\u0101k. Pajaut\u0101jiet, vai b\u0113rns var paskaidrot, kas izrais\u012bja vi\u0146a uzliesmojumu. (\"K\u0101 tu dom\u0101, k\u0101p\u0113c tu tik \u013coti dusmojies uz savu draugu? \").\n<\/p>\n
Paskaidrojiet, ka da\u017ereiz dusmoties ir piln\u012bgi dabiski, ta\u010du nav pie\u013caujams stumt, sist, sist, sist vai kost. Ierosiniet lab\u0101kus veidus, k\u0101 par\u0101d\u012bt, cik \u013coti vi\u0146i ir dusm\u012bgi, piem\u0113ram, sitot ar bumbu, sitot ar d\u016bri pa spilvenu, mekl\u0113jot pieaugu\u0161o, kas var\u0113tu b\u016bt starpnieks str\u012bd\u0101, vai vienk\u0101r\u0161i izsakot savas j\u016btas draugam: \"Es j\u016btos \u013coti dusm\u012bgs, jo tu pa\u0146em manu gr\u0101matu.\"\n<\/p>\n
V\u0113l viens veids, k\u0101 pal\u012bdz\u0113t b\u0113rnam tikt gal\u0101 ar emocij\u0101m, ir izm\u0113\u0123in\u0101t \"time-ins\" (pretstat\u0101 laika p\u0101rtrauk\u0161anai). Ikreiz, kad b\u0113rns uzliesmo, p\u0101rtrauciet savu darb\u012bbu un pal\u016bdziet b\u0113rnam aps\u0113sties kop\u0101 ar jums un uz br\u012bdi klus\u0113t.\n<\/p>\n
Ja vi\u0146i \u013cauj, apsk\u0101viet vi\u0146us vai turiet vi\u0146u par roku. P\u0113c tam, p\u0113c da\u017e\u0101m min\u016bt\u0113m miera, \u012bsi p\u0101rrun\u0101jiet, kas notika un k\u0101 vi\u0146i b\u016btu var\u0113ju\u0161i r\u012bkoties ar sav\u0101m dusm\u0101m cit\u0101di. M\u0113r\u0137is ir iem\u0101c\u012bt vi\u0146iem atpaz\u012bt un saprast savas emocijas, vienlaikus apsverot citas iesp\u0113jas, k\u0101 t\u0101s paust.\n<\/p>\n
Tas ir ar\u012b labs laiks iem\u0101c\u012bt vi\u0146iem aiziet prom no kaitino\u0161\u0101m situ\u0101cij\u0101m un cilv\u0113kiem, kam\u0113r vi\u0146i nesp\u0113j izdom\u0101t lab\u0101ku veidu, k\u0101 rea\u0123\u0113t, nevis laisties ar d\u016bri. J\u016bs varat pal\u012bdz\u0113t b\u0113rnam tikt gal\u0101 ar dusm\u0101m, kop\u0101 lasot gr\u0101matas par \u0161o t\u0113mu. Izm\u0113\u0123iniet Aliki's Feelings vai Cornelia Maude Spelman (Korn\u0113lija Mude Spelmena) gr\u0101matu When I Feel Angry (Kad es j\u016btos dusm\u012bgs).\n<\/p>\n
Atalgojiet par labu uzved\u012bbu. T\u0101 viet\u0101, lai piev\u0113rstu uzman\u012bbu b\u0113rnam galvenok\u0101rt tad, kad vi\u0146\u0161 izr\u0101da negat\u012bvas emocijas, m\u0113\u0123iniet vi\u0146u paman\u012bt, ka vi\u0146\u0161 r\u012bkojas labi, piem\u0113ram, kad vi\u0146\u0161 l\u016bdz, lai vi\u0146am pien\u0101k k\u0101rta sp\u0113l\u0113t sp\u0113li, nevis at\u0146em plan\u0161etdatoru, vai atdod savas \u0161\u016bpoles citam b\u0113rnam, kur\u0161 gaid\u012bjis.\n<\/p>\n
Past\u0101stiet vi\u0146iem, ka lepojaties ar vi\u0146iem. Par\u0101diet vi\u0146iem, ka pa\u0161kontrole un konfliktu risin\u0101\u0161ana sniedz liel\u0101ku gandar\u012bjumu - un dod lab\u0101kus rezult\u0101tus - nek\u0101 citu b\u0113rnu stumd\u012b\u0161ana vai sitieni.\n<\/p>\n
M\u0101ciet atbild\u012bbu. Ja j\u016bsu b\u0113rns ar savu agresiju saboj\u0101 k\u0101da \u012bpa\u0161umu vai rada nek\u0101rt\u012bbu, vi\u0146am j\u0101pal\u012bdz to atkal sak\u0101rtot. Piem\u0113ram, vi\u0146i var sal\u012bm\u0113t atpaka\u013c salauztu rota\u013clietu vai sakopt krekerus vai kluc\u012b\u0161us, ko vi\u0146i metu\u0161i dusm\u0101s. Neuzskatiet \u0161o r\u012bc\u012bbu par sodu, bet gan par dabisk\u0101m vi\u0146u uzved\u012bbas sek\u0101m - kaut ko t\u0101du, kas b\u016btu j\u0101dara ikvienam.\n<\/p>\n
P\u0101rdom\u0101ti izv\u0113lieties ekr\u0101na laiku. Nevain\u012bgi izskat\u012bt\u0101s multfilmas un citi b\u0113rniem dom\u0101tie mediji ir pilni klieg\u0161anas, draudu, stumd\u012b\u0161an\u0101s un sitienu. T\u0101p\u0113c m\u0113\u0123iniet uzraudz\u012bt, k\u0101das programmas un digit\u0101l\u0101s sp\u0113les skat\u0101s j\u016bsu b\u0113rns, pievienojoties vi\u0146am ekr\u0101na laik\u0101, jo \u012bpa\u0161i, ja vi\u0146\u0161 ir nosliece uz agresiju.\n<\/p>\n
Amerikas Pediatrijas akad\u0113mija mudina vec\u0101kus izv\u0113l\u0113ties b\u0113rniem kvalitat\u012bvus, vecumam atbilsto\u0161us medijus un ierobe\u017eot ekr\u0101n\u0101 pavad\u012bto laiku. Organiz\u0101cija ar\u012b mudina vec\u0101kus skat\u012bties kop\u0101 ar b\u0113rnu un run\u0101t par to, ko vi\u0146i skat\u0101s.\n<\/p>\n
Da\u017eiem b\u0113rniem ir liel\u0101kas probl\u0113mas ar agresiju un dusm\u0101m nek\u0101 citiem. Konsult\u0113jieties ar savu b\u0113rnu ar \u0101rstu, ja J\u016bsu b\u0113rna agres\u012bv\u0101 uzved\u012bba \u0161\u0137iet nekontrol\u0113jama. Kop\u0101 j\u016bs varat m\u0113\u0123in\u0101t noskaidrot probl\u0113mas b\u016bt\u012bbu un izlemt, vai ir nepiecie\u0161ama b\u0113rnu psihologa vai psihiatra pal\u012bdz\u012bba.\n<\/p>\n
Da\u017ek\u0101rt neapmierin\u0101t\u012bbu un dusmas izraisa nediagnostic\u0113ti m\u0101c\u012b\u0161an\u0101s vai uzved\u012bbas trauc\u0113jumi, piem\u0113ram, ADHD vai autisms, vai ar\u012b da\u017ek\u0101rt probl\u0113ma ir saist\u012bta ar \u0123imenes vai emocion\u0101l\u0101m gr\u016bt\u012bb\u0101m, piem\u0113ram, traumu. Neatkar\u012bgi no t\u0101, k\u0101ds ir t\u0101s c\u0113lonis, konsultants var pal\u012bdz\u0113t b\u0113rnam izprast emocijas, kas izraisa agresiju, un iem\u0101c\u012bties t\u0101s kontrol\u0113t n\u0101kotn\u0113.\n<\/p>\n
Uzziniet vair\u0101k:\n<\/p>\n
K\u0101p\u0113c mans b\u0113rns ir tik dusm\u012bgs? Dusm\u012bgs b\u0113rns, visticam\u0101k, izj\u016bt k\u0101du stresu. Galvenais uzdevums ir noskaidrot, kas to izraisa. Tas var b\u016bt pavisam vienk\u0101r\u0161s iemesls - b\u0113rns ir noguris un izsalcis, vai ar\u012b tas var b\u016bt daudz sare\u017e\u0123\u012bt\u0101ks. Da\u017ei izplat\u012bt\u0101kie iemesli, k\u0101p\u0113c b\u0113rns var b\u016bt dusm\u012bgs: Vil\u0161an\u0101s ir izplat\u012bts izrais\u012bt\u0101js. J\u016bsu b\u0113rns var vienk\u0101r\u0161i v\u0113l\u0113ties […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":51976,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[96],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-51961","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-health"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51961","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=51961"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51961\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/51976"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=51961"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=51961"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=51961"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}