Apsveicam, tu esi vecvec\u0101ks! Tas ir liels notikums, ko tu, iesp\u0113jams, esi gaid\u012bjis jau ilgu laiku.\n<\/p>\n
Ta\u010du \u0161\u012b p\u0101reja rada gan izaicin\u0101jumus, gan ar\u012b prieku. L\u016bk, da\u017ei padomi, kas pal\u012bdz\u0113s jums izvair\u012bties no bie\u017e\u0101k sastopamaj\u0101m jauno vecvec\u0101ku lamat\u0101m un ar izcil\u012bbu un \u017e\u0113last\u012bbu tikt gal\u0101 ar savu lomu.\n<\/p>\n
Daudzi topo\u0161ie vec\u0101ki jau no pa\u0161a s\u0101kuma izj\u016bt spriedzi vai saj\u016btu, ka ir spiesti izv\u0113l\u0113ties starp diviem vai pat trim vai \u010detriem vecvec\u0101kiem, kuri izvirza savas v\u0113lmes. T\u0101 ir stresa recepte, kas topo\u0161ajiem vec\u0101kiem noteikti nav vajadz\u012bga.\n<\/p>\n
Cik vien varat, saglab\u0101jiet pozit\u012bvu noska\u0146ojumu, esiet elast\u012bgi un \u013caujieties pl\u016bsmai. Koncentr\u0113jieties uz to, lai atbalst\u012btu topo\u0161os vec\u0101kus, nevis st\u0101st\u012btu vi\u0146iem, ko v\u0113laties - vi\u0146i to nov\u0113rt\u0113s.\n<\/p>\n
Kad runa ir par viz\u012bt\u0113m, jo \u012bpa\u0161i svar\u012bgo pirmo viz\u012bti, lai redz\u0113tu b\u0113rnu, esiet iej\u016bt\u012bgi. J\u016bs var neaicin\u0101t piedal\u012bties dzemd\u012bb\u0101s vai ierasties slimn\u012bc\u0101 vai dzemd\u012bbu centr\u0101 uzreiz p\u0113c t\u0101m. Nevajag apvainoties - tas ir jauno vec\u0101ku l\u0113mums, un vi\u0146u l\u0113mum\u0101 var b\u016bt \u0146emti v\u0113r\u0101 daudzi faktori, par kuriem j\u016bs, iesp\u0113jams, nezin\u0101t.\n<\/p>\n
J\u016bs, visticam\u0101k, dal\u012bsieties vecvec\u0101ku pien\u0101kumus ar da\u017eiem citiem cilv\u0113kiem, ta\u010du m\u0113\u0123iniet neiesaist\u012bties citu vecvec\u0101ku attiec\u012bb\u0101s ar jauno mazuli. T\u0101s nav sacens\u012bbas, lai noskaidrotu, kur\u0161 no vecvec\u0101kiem ir lab\u0101kais - j\u016bsu uzdevums ir vienk\u0101r\u0161i b\u016bt lab\u0101kajam vecvec\u0101kam, k\u0101ds vien varat b\u016bt, nevis uztraukties par to, ko dara citi vecvec\u0101ki.\n<\/p>\n
Jaunie vec\u0101ki nev\u0113las apgraiz\u012bt? V\u0113las nosaukt savu b\u0113rnu v\u0101rd\u0101, kas, tavupr\u0101t, izklaus\u0101s mu\u013c\u0137\u012bgi? Pl\u0101nojat izm\u0113\u0123in\u0101t z\u012bdai\u0146a at\u0161\u0137ir\u0161anu no kr\u016bts? God\u012bgi sakot, t\u0101 nav j\u016bsu probl\u0113ma.\n<\/p>\n
Neatkar\u012bgi no t\u0101, cik daudz b\u0113rnu esat izaudzin\u0101jis un k\u0101 vi\u0146i ir izaugu\u0161i, j\u016bsu pieaugu\u0161ais b\u0113rns un vi\u0146a partneris tagad ir atbild\u012bgi par b\u0113rnu audzin\u0101\u0161anu. Esiet piesardz\u012bgi, pied\u0101v\u0101jot savu viedokli vai padomus, ja vien tas nav tie\u0161i l\u016bgts. Un pat tad r\u012bkojieties uzman\u012bgi un paudiet savu viedokli maigi.\n<\/p>\n
\"Viss ir atkar\u012bgs no robe\u017eu iev\u0113ro\u0161anas, \" saka \u0123imenes terapeite Krist\u012bne Lorora (Christine Lawlor), kas daudz\u0101m \u0123imen\u0113m ir pal\u012bdz\u0113jusi risin\u0101t ar vecvec\u0101kiem saist\u012btus jaut\u0101jumus. \" Katrs vec\u0101ks ir at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bgs, un j\u016bsu b\u0113rnam ir j\u0101m\u0101c\u0101s, kas vi\u0146am ir piem\u0113rots.\";\n<\/p>\n
Ir gr\u016bti tur\u0113t l\u016bpas aizspr\u0101dz\u0113tas, kad dzirdi lietas, kur\u0101m nepiekr\u012bti, s\u0101kot ar to, k\u0101das dzemd\u012bbas vec\u0101ki pl\u0101no un beidzot ar to, k\u0101da veida b\u0113rnu apr\u016bpi vi\u0146i apsver. Bet tev tas ir j\u0101dara.\n<\/p>\n
Ja m\u0113\u0123in\u0101siet iejaukties, pau\u017eot pret\u0113ju viedokli, j\u016bs k\u013c\u016bstat par pretinieku, saka \u0145ujorkas \u0123imenes terapeite \u0160arona O'N\u012bla (Sharon O'Neill), gr\u0101matas A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage autore. Laika gait\u0101 j\u016bs saasin\u0101siet savas attiec\u012bbas ar jaunajiem vec\u0101kiem un mazb\u0113rniem.\n<\/p>\n
\u013baujiet topo\u0161ajiem vec\u0101kiem eksperiment\u0113t - ne katrs vi\u0146u pie\u0146emtais l\u0113mums paliks sp\u0113k\u0101. Un ne visam, ko vi\u0146i dara zin\u0101mu, ir j\u0101izraisa reakcija. Da\u017ereiz vi\u0146i vienk\u0101r\u0161i ska\u013ci dom\u0101. \"\u013baujiet vi\u0146iem augt vec\u0101ku lom\u0101,\" saka Lorijs.\n<\/p>\n
Visbeidzot, nek\u0101das apvainojo\u0161as vai \"Es tev teicu, ka es tev t\u0101 teicu\", kad kaut kas, kam nepiekrit\u0101t, nedarbojas. Katram ir j\u0101m\u0101c\u0101s pa\u0161am.\n<\/p>\n
T\u0101 k\u0101 ce\u013c\u0101 ir jauns mazb\u0113rns, ir vilino\u0161i doties iepirkties. Bet pirms tam pajaut\u0101jiet topo\u0161ajiem vec\u0101kiem, kas vi\u0146iem ir nepiecie\u0161ams, ko vi\u0146i nev\u0113las un vai ir k\u0101ds b\u0113rnu re\u0123istrs vai v\u0113lmju saraksts, ar kuru j\u016bs varat iepaz\u012bties, pirms kaut ko p\u0113rkat.\n<\/p>\n
Da\u017ei topo\u0161ie vec\u0101ki atzin\u012bgi v\u0113rt\u0113 visas d\u0101vanas, bet citi dod priek\u0161roku pa\u0161i izv\u0113l\u0113ties ap\u0123\u0113rbu, rota\u013clietas un apr\u012bkojumu. Iesp\u0113jams, ka ir ar\u012b citi faktori, piem\u0113ram, gaid\u0101m\u0101 p\u0101rcel\u0161an\u0101s vai ierobe\u017eot\u0101 telpa.\n<\/p>\n
Da\u017ei vec\u0101ki iev\u0113ro \"maz\u0101k ir vair\u0101k\" filozofiju un nev\u0113las piepild\u012bt savas m\u0101jas ar lielgabar\u012bta b\u0113rnu apr\u012bkojumu, vismaz ne uzreiz. Citi daudz labpr\u0101t\u0101k sa\u0146emtu finansi\u0101lu pal\u012bdz\u012bbu vai iemaksas uzkr\u0101jumu kont\u0101.\n<\/p>\n
J\u016bs esat tik \u013coti priec\u0101jies iepaz\u012bties ar jauno mazuli - un tad vi\u0146i nep\u0101rtraukti raud, kad vien atrodas j\u016bsu rok\u0101s, un ignor\u0113 j\u016bsu \u010dukstus un smiekl\u012bg\u0101s sejas. Tas, protams, ir sar\u016bgtino\u0161i, bet nevajag uztraukties, ka j\u016bsu attiec\u012bbas vienm\u0113r b\u016bs tik ro\u0137\u012bgas.\n<\/p>\n
\"Protams, j\u016bs varat cer\u0113t uz br\u012bni\u0161\u0137\u012bg\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m ar mazb\u0113rnu, ta\u010du tas nenotiek autom\u0101tiski, \" saka AARP daudzpaaud\u017eu \u0123ime\u0146u eksperte un gr\u0101matas Things to Do Now That You're a Grandparent autore Eimija Gojere (Amy Goyer). \" Tas prasa laiku un darbu, un ne vienm\u0113r tas var l\u012bdzin\u0101ties j\u016bsu izt\u0113lei.\";\n<\/p>\n
Centieties izvair\u012bties no konkr\u0113t\u0101m cer\u012bb\u0101m - t\u0101s var b\u016bt vil\u0161an\u0101s recepte. T\u0101 viet\u0101 koncentr\u0113jieties uz to, lai mazb\u0113rnu iepaz\u012btu l\u0113n\u0101m un dabiski. Mekl\u0113jiet p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas vair\u0101k veidu, k\u0101 iesaist\u012bties vi\u0146a dz\u012bv\u0113. Ja vi\u0146i kliedz, kad tiek pie jums pasniegti, m\u0113\u0123iniet to dar\u012bt ar\u012b turpm\u0101k. Iesp\u0113jams, vi\u0146iem vienk\u0101r\u0161i ir nepiecie\u0161ams laiks, lai iejustos ne tikai vec\u0101ku lok\u0101.\n<\/p>\n
J\u016bs esat pieradis b\u016bt galvenais, bet \u0161oreiz ir j\u016bsu b\u0113rna k\u0101rta. Tas var b\u016bt mulsino\u0161i, ta\u010du \u0161\u012b lomu mai\u0146a var b\u016bt ar\u012b atsvaidzino\u0161a. Galu gal\u0101 ar pilnvar\u0101m n\u0101k ar\u012b atbild\u012bba. Tagad tava k\u0101rta ir dar\u012bt to, kas tev pav\u0113l\u0113ts, un neuztraukties par to, vai tas ir lab\u0101kais veids.\n<\/p>\n
Ja j\u016bsu mazb\u0113rnam ir ierasts miega un \u0113\u0161anas re\u017e\u012bms, p\u0101rliecinieties, ka j\u016bs to saglab\u0101jat, pat ja tas noz\u012bm\u0113, ka izbrauciens b\u016bs \u012bs\u0101ks. \"Ja katru reizi, kad Samijs dodas ar vecm\u0101mi\u0146u, vi\u0146\u0161 m\u0101j\u0101s atgrie\u017eas noguris un kapr\u012bzs, \u0161ie izbraucieni nenotiks tik bie\u017ei, \" saka \u0123imenes terapeite O' Neils.\n<\/p>\n
Ja vec\u0101ki ir teiku\u0161i, ka v\u0113l nedr\u012bkst \u0113st cietu \u0113dienu un ka televizors nedr\u012bkst b\u016bt izsl\u0113gts, kad b\u0113rns ir nomod\u0101, respekt\u0113jiet vi\u0146u v\u0113lmes. Tas pats attiecas uz vi\u0146u m\u0101jas noteikumiem: Ja vi\u0146i ir stingri attiec\u012bb\u0101 uz otrreiz\u0113jo p\u0101rstr\u0101di, nemetiet savas sk\u0101rdenes atkritumos.\n<\/p>\n
Un, ja j\u016bsu b\u0113rni v\u0113las, lai j\u016bs vakcin\u0113tos, vai ar\u012b v\u0113las, lai apmekl\u0113juma laik\u0101 j\u016bs iev\u0113rotu citus piesardz\u012bbas pas\u0101kumus, \u0146emiet to v\u0113r\u0101: Jaundzimu\u0161ie ir \u012bpa\u0161i neaizsarg\u0101ti pret infekcij\u0101m, t\u0101p\u0113c ir svar\u012bgi dar\u012bt visu iesp\u0113jamo, lai vi\u0146us aizsarg\u0101tu.\n<\/p>\n
Ja jaunie vec\u0101ki ne vienm\u0113r ir laipni, skaidrojot savus \"j\u0101dara\" un \"nedara\", vai par kaut ko uzjautrin\u0101s, m\u0113\u0123iniet saglab\u0101t savald\u012bbu. Iesp\u0113jams, ka pie vainas ir miega tr\u016bkums un jaun\u0101s vec\u0101ku lomas stress.\n<\/p>\n
Ir viegli aizmirst, cik p\u0101rlieku sare\u017e\u0123\u012bti ir k\u013c\u016bt par jauno vec\u0101ku un cik gr\u016bti var b\u016bt izpild\u012bt pa\u0161us svar\u012bg\u0101kos pamatprincipus. \u0160eit j\u016bs varat iejaukties, lai gl\u0101btu situ\u0101ciju.\n<\/p>\n
Apmekl\u0113jumu laik\u0101 pied\u0101v\u0101jiet apr\u016bp\u0113t mazb\u0113rnu, kam\u0113r vec\u0101ki snaudu\u013co vai dara citus darbus. Pajaut\u0101jiet, vai varat pal\u012bdz\u0113t, veicot da\u017e\u0101dus uzdevumus, gatavojot malt\u012btes vai uzkopjot.\n<\/p>\n
Da\u017ei jaunie vec\u0101ki nelabpr\u0101t l\u016bdz vecvec\u0101ku pal\u012bdz\u012bbu, t\u0101p\u0113c var pan\u0101kt lab\u0101kus rezult\u0101tus, ja j\u016bs vienk\u0101r\u0161i iesaist\u012bsieties un dar\u012bsiet, kas nepiecie\u0161ams, piem\u0113ram, uzpild\u012bsiet trauku mazg\u0101jamo ma\u0161\u012bnu vai pagatavosiet sviestmaizes. Bet, ja p\u0113c tam j\u016btat aizvainojumu, nedariet to v\u0113lreiz - ne visi nov\u0113rt\u0113 nev\u0113l\u0113tu pal\u012bdz\u012bbu.\n<\/p>\n
Jaunajiem vec\u0101kiem var b\u016bt viegl\u0101k, ja j\u016bs apmet\u012bsieties viesn\u012bc\u0101 net\u0101lu, nevis vi\u0146u m\u0101j\u0101s. \u0160\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101 vi\u0146i necent\u012bsies uz\u0146emties viesm\u012bl\u012bbas pien\u0101kumus papildus saviem vec\u0101ku pien\u0101kumiem.\n<\/p>\n
To ir v\u0113rts jaut\u0101t iepriek\u0161, saka Gojere no AARP. \"J\u016bsu ieteikums var tikt uztverts ar atvieglojumu, vai ar\u012b vi\u0146i var teikt, ka tas nav nepiecie\u0161ams, bet j\u016bs esat pied\u0101v\u0101jis \u0161o iesp\u0113ju, \" vi\u0146a saka.\n<\/p>\n
Piedodiet jaunajiem vec\u0101kiem, ka vi\u0146i ir p\u0101r\u0146emti un aizr\u0101vu\u0161ies ar sevi - tas ir dabiski. J\u016bsu b\u0113rnam, visticam\u0101k, neb\u016bs laika liet\u0101m, ko agr\u0101k dar\u012bj\u0101t kop\u0101, un j\u016bsu sarunas, visticam\u0101k, vismaz k\u0101du laiku b\u016bs tikai par b\u0113rnu.\n<\/p>\n
Ja j\u016bs to sagaid\u012bsiet un praktiz\u0113siet paciet\u012bbu, ir maz\u0101ka iesp\u0113jam\u012bba, ka j\u016bs k\u013c\u016bsiet aizvainots vai aizvainots. Un j\u016bs varat b\u016bt pat\u012bkami p\u0101rsteigti, kad jaunie vec\u0101ki izn\u0101ks no miega tr\u016bkuma miglas un j\u016bs visi var\u0113siet baud\u012bt laiku kop\u0101.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Apsveicam, tu esi vecvec\u0101ks! Tas ir liels notikums, ko tu, iesp\u0113jams, esi gaid\u012bjis jau ilgu laiku. Ta\u010du \u0161\u012b p\u0101reja rada gan izaicin\u0101jumus, gan ar\u012b prieku. L\u016bk, da\u017ei padomi, kas pal\u012bdz\u0113s jums izvair\u012bties no bie\u017e\u0101k sastopamaj\u0101m jauno vecvec\u0101ku lamat\u0101m un ar izcil\u012bbu un \u017e\u0113last\u012bbu tikt gal\u0101 ar savu lomu. Radiet priek\u0161noteikumus vienm\u0113r\u012bg\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m Daudzi topo\u0161ie vec\u0101ki […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":51846,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[97],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-51831","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","","category-family"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51831","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=51831"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/51831\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/51846"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=51831"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=51831"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/forbaby.blog\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=51831"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}