B\u016bt par vecvec\u0101kiem, kas j\u016bs p\u0101rsteidz, protams, ir jautri, ta\u010du tas prasa ar\u012b laiku un p\u016bles. L\u016bk, k\u0101 k\u013c\u016bt par vislab\u0101ko vecvec\u0101ku.\n<\/p>\n
K\u0101 vecvec\u0101kam jums ir gadiem ilga audzin\u0101\u0161anas pieredze. Iesp\u0113jams, j\u016bs j\u016btaties k\u0101 eksperts un uzskat\u0101t, ka j\u016bsu b\u0113rnam - jaunajam vec\u0101kam - ir nepiecie\u0161ami j\u016bsu nor\u0101d\u012bjumi. Ta\u010du \u0161aj\u0101 virzien\u0101 sl\u0113pjas katastrofa.\n<\/p>\n
\"Lai cik gr\u016bti tas b\u016btu, jums ir j\u0101saprot, ka ir vi\u0146u k\u0101rta pie\u0146emt l\u0113mumus par b\u0113rnu audzin\u0101\u0161anu. Vecvec\u0101kiem nevajadz\u0113tu st\u0101ties ce\u013c\u0101,\" saka \u0145ujorkas \u0123imenes terapeite \u0160arona O'N\u012bla.\n<\/p>\n
Pied\u0101v\u0101jot padomus un viedok\u013cus, lai cik labi dom\u0101ti tie b\u016btu, j\u016bs risk\u0113jat rad\u012bt jau t\u0101 nervoziem jaunajiem vec\u0101kiem saj\u016btu, ka vi\u0146iem neuzticaties vai nerespekt\u0113jat vi\u0146u spriedumus, saka O'N\u012bls. T\u0101 viet\u0101 apgrieziet \u0161o vien\u0101dojumu un \u013caujiet savai zin\u0101tk\u0101rei b\u016bt noteic\u0113jai.\n<\/p>\n
Pajaut\u0101jiet vi\u0146iem par mazb\u0113rna simp\u0101tij\u0101m un antip\u0101tij\u0101m, jaun\u0101kajiem sasniegumiem un smiekl\u012bgajiem trikiem. Jaut\u0101jiet par baro\u0161anu, vesel\u012bbas probl\u0113m\u0101m vai miega ieradumiem - nev\u0113laties b\u016bt uzb\u0101z\u012bgs. Maigi, nenobied\u0113jo\u0161i jaut\u0101jumi liecina, ka jums r\u016bp, un \u013cauj jums atbalst\u012bt savu b\u0113rnu, risinot jebk\u0101das probl\u0113mas.\n<\/p>\n
Vecvec\u0101ki var b\u016bt vecvec\u0101ki, kas sniedz visu prieku, ko sniedz b\u0113rni, bet neuz\u0146emas atbild\u012bbu. T\u0101p\u0113c izbaudi to! Nok\u0101p uz gr\u012bdas un sp\u0113l\u0113jieties ar savu jauno mazb\u0113rnu. Sp\u0113l\u0113jiet mu\u013c\u0137\u012bgas aini\u0146as ar pirkstu lell\u0113m, izdom\u0101jiet st\u0101stus un taisiet sejas. Saglab\u0101jiet jokus, ko st\u0101st\u012bt vec\u0101kiem b\u0113rniem, un kop\u0101 skatieties smiekl\u012bgas filmas.\n<\/p>\n
Vecm\u0101mi\u0146a S\u0101ra Viljamsa kop\u0101 ar sav\u0101m mazmeit\u0101m, kad vi\u0146as bija mazas, izveidoja \u012bpa\u0161u valodu, aizst\u0101jot v\u0101rdus, lai neviens cits nesaprastu, par ko vi\u0146as run\u0101. Tagad, kad meitenes ir liel\u0101kas, vi\u0146as ir s\u0101ku\u0161as dal\u012bties soci\u0101lajos t\u012bklos ar smiekl\u012bgiem videoklipiem.\n<\/p>\n
\"Tas ir br\u012bnums. Mani draugi redz \u0161\u012bs trak\u0101s lietas, ko Amelija un Lilija ievieto man\u0101 lap\u0101, un vienk\u0101r\u0161i smejas, \" saka Viljamss.\n<\/p>\n
Izvairieties no lamat\u0101m, kas liek sekot l\u012bdzi citiem mazb\u0113rna vecvec\u0101kiem, - tas tikai rad\u012bs smagas emocijas.\n<\/p>\n
\"Tas ir neizb\u0113gami, ka viens no vecvec\u0101kiem pavad\u012bs vair\u0101k laika kop\u0101 ar b\u0113rnu nek\u0101 p\u0101r\u0113jie, ta\u010du tas v\u0113l neko nenoz\u012bm\u0113 attiec\u012bbu tuv\u012bbas zi\u0146\u0101,\" saka AARP daudzpaaud\u017eu \u0123imenes eksperte un gr\u0101matas Things to Do Now That You're a Grandparent autore Emija Gojere (Amy Goyer).\n<\/p>\n
Paturiet pr\u0101t\u0101 mazb\u0113rna vajadz\u012bbas. Galu gal\u0101 m\u012blest\u012bbas nav par daudz, un cie\u0161as attiec\u012bbas ar vecvec\u0101kiem nemazina j\u016bsu noz\u012bm\u012bgumu, ja vien j\u016bs tam ne\u013caujat.\n<\/p>\n
Atz\u012bsim, ka b\u0113rni ir nek\u0101rt\u012bgi. J\u016bs, iesp\u0113jams, esat aizmirsu\u0161i, cik net\u012brs! Vislab\u0101k ir iepriek\u0161 pl\u0101not, lai j\u016bs neizbied\u0113tu grauzdi\u0146\u0161, kas uz balta d\u012bv\u0101na nokr\u012bt ar iev\u0101r\u012bjumu uz leju.\n<\/p>\n
Ir labi, ja da\u017eas zonas tiek noteiktas k\u0101 aizliegt\u0101s, bet citas - k\u0101 b\u0113rniem draudz\u012bgas. T\u0101 k\u0101 j\u016bs nev\u0113laties, lai j\u016bsu mazb\u0113rniem b\u016btu j\u0101seko l\u012bdzi ar s\u016bkli, izveidojiet b\u0113rnu \u0113\u0161anas zonu, kur drupatas var krist, k\u0101 vien v\u0113las. J\u016bs varat izmantot noslauc\u0101mu galdautu un pat aizsarg\u0101t pakl\u0101jus ar gr\u012bdas pakl\u0101ji\u0146u.\n<\/p>\n
V\u0113laties nodro\u0161in\u0101t mazb\u0113rnu dro\u0161\u012bbu, norobe\u017eojot b\u012bstam\u0101s vietas un p\u0101rvietojot v\u0113rt\u012bgus priek\u0161metus un iesp\u0113jam\u0101s indes no vi\u0146iem pieejam\u0101s vietas. M\u016bsu videoklip\u0101 var uzzin\u0101t, k\u0101 nodro\u0161in\u0101t savu m\u0101jokli vai vismaz t\u0101 da\u013cu pret b\u0113rniem.\n<\/p>\n
Ir vilino\u0161i ieg\u0101d\u0101ties jaun\u0101ko rota\u013clietu vai sp\u0113li un redz\u0113t, k\u0101 j\u016bsu mazb\u0113rna seja iemirdzas, un tas ir labi. Ta\u010du bie\u017ei vien daudz noz\u012bm\u012bg\u0101ka ir kop\u012bga pieredze, kas rad\u012bs atmi\u0146as uz visu m\u016b\u017eu.\n<\/p>\n
\"Mani mazb\u0113rni ar nepaciet\u012bbu atver dzim\u0161anas dienas un Ziemassv\u0113tku kart\u012btes, lai uzzin\u0101tu, ko m\u0113s kop\u0101 piedz\u012bvosim'. Diviem no maniem mazb\u0113rniem pat\u012bk vilcieni, t\u0101p\u0113c m\u0113s dev\u0101mies tr\u012bs stundu gar\u0101 Amtrak braucien\u0101 un piedz\u012bvoj\u0101m da\u017eus jautrus piedz\u012bvojumus mazaj\u0101 Sed\u0101lijas pils\u0113ti\u0146\u0101 Mis\u016bri \u0161tat\u0101, p\u0113c tam atkal brauc\u0101m m\u0101j\u0101s,\" saka Cathy Svacina, 12 b\u0113rnu vecm\u0101mi\u0146a.\n<\/p>\n
Dokument\u0113jiet \u0161o pieredzi, lai t\u0101 paliktu j\u016bsu mazb\u0113rnu atmi\u0146\u0101s. \"Es uz\u0146\u0113mu bildes un piez\u012bmes un izveidoju vi\u0146iem mazu bil\u017eu gr\u0101matu, un vi\u0146i \u0161o ce\u013cojumu p\u0101rdz\u012bvo atkal un atkal, \" saka Svacina.\n<\/p>\n
Vi\u0146a piebilst, ka pat b\u0113rnu pieskat\u012b\u0161anas diena ir piemi\u0146as v\u0113rta. \"Es nofotograf\u0113\u0161u, un m\u0113s izdom\u0101jam jautru st\u0101stu, ko p\u0101rv\u0113r\u0161am gr\u0101mat\u0101. Un, kad m\u0113s kop\u0101 las\u0101m \u0161o gr\u0101matu, m\u0113s smejamies un atkal un atkal j\u016btamies tik jautri.\"\n<\/p>\n
Uzmanieties no bie\u017ei sastopam\u0101 p\u0101rlieku aizraut\u012bgu vecvec\u0101ku slazda: Vecvec\u0101ki, kas ir vecvec\u0101ki, var k\u013c\u016bt par vecvec\u0101kiem vair\u0101k darba, nevis maz\u0101k.\n<\/p>\n
Gojere no AARP st\u0101sta, ka vi\u0146a dzird daudzus v\u012blu\u0161os vecvec\u0101kus, kuri br\u012bn\u0101s, k\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146i nesa\u0146em vair\u0101k iel\u016bgumu apciemot savus pieaugu\u0161os b\u0113rnus un mazb\u0113rnus, \u0161\u0137iet, neapzinoties, cik lielas ir vi\u0146u cer\u012bbas un cik daudz p\u016b\u013cu un darba vi\u0146i sag\u0101d\u0101 citiem.\n<\/p>\n
Uzliekot atbild\u012bbu par pl\u0101nu veido\u0161anu saviem b\u0113rniem, varat vi\u0146iem rad\u012bt tikai liel\u0101ku stresu. Vai vi\u0146i vienm\u0113r n\u0101k pie jums ciemos? M\u0113\u0123iniet pied\u0101v\u0101t vi\u0146iem doties pie vi\u0146iem uz m\u0101j\u0101m. Vai ar\u012b ir otr\u0101di, un j\u016bs vienm\u0113r ciemojaties pie vi\u0146iem? Varb\u016bt n\u0101kamreiz pied\u0101v\u0101jiet uz\u0146emties saimnieka lomu.\n<\/p>\n
Kad mazb\u0113rni k\u013c\u016bst vec\u0101ki, padom\u0101jiet par veidiem, k\u0101 pavad\u012bt kvalitat\u012bvu laiku kop\u0101 ar vi\u0146iem, kas ir noder\u012bgi vec\u0101kiem, bet nav uzm\u0101c\u012bgi un neprasa no vi\u0146iem daudz organiz\u0113\u0161anas un pl\u0101no\u0161anas.\n<\/p>\n
\"Izgudrojiet jautru pieredzi, kur viss, kas vi\u0146iem j\u0101dara, ir tikai j\u0101ierodas, \" saka Goijers.\n<\/p>\n
P\u013c\u0101p\u0101\u0161ana par z\u012bdaini, vienlaikus ignor\u0113jot vai, v\u0113l \u013caun\u0101k, uzbr\u016bkot tr\u012bs gadus vecajam br\u0101lim vai m\u0101sai, ir klasisks vecvec\u0101ku faux pas.\n<\/p>\n
Tas ir gandr\u012bz neiesp\u0113jami, lai j\u016bs nep\u0101rsteigtu jebkura mazb\u0113rna, kur\u0161 atrodas vism\u012b\u013c\u0101kaj\u0101 stadij\u0101, apbr\u012bno\u0161ana. Ta\u010du katrs b\u0113rns piedz\u012bvos gan gr\u016btus, gan e\u0146\u0123e\u013ca laikus, un j\u016bsu uzdevums ir m\u012bl\u0113t vi\u0146us jebkur\u0101 gad\u012bjum\u0101.\n<\/p>\n
\"B\u0113rni ir patie\u0161\u0101m gudri. Ja \u0161\u0137iet, ka tev vi\u0146i pat\u012bk tikai tad, kad vi\u0146i uzvedas vislab\u0101k vai ir \"viegl\u0101\" f\u0101z\u0113, vi\u0146i to zin\u0101s un b\u016bs piesardz\u012bgi. T\u0101 ir vecvec\u0101ku versijas versija par god\u012bgu draugu, \" saka Goijers.\n<\/p>\n
Lab\u0101kais veids, k\u0101 c\u012bn\u012bties pret favor\u012btismu, ir p\u0101rliecin\u0101ties, ka j\u016bsu apmekl\u0113jumos ir iek\u013cauts individu\u0101ls laiks ar katru mazb\u0113rnu. B\u0113rni vislab\u0101k j\u016btas tad, kad ir no\u0161\u0137irti no br\u0101\u013cu un m\u0101su konkurences, un ir daudz viegl\u0101k iepaz\u012bt kautr\u012bgu b\u0113rnu, ja j\u016bs esat vien\u012bgais, ar kuru var sarun\u0101ties.\n<\/p>\n
Lai kop\u0101 pavad\u012btais laiks b\u016btu p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas lietder\u012bg\u0101ks, piel\u0101gojiet savas aktivit\u0101tes mazb\u0113rna interes\u0113m. Aizvediet \u010detrgadnieku, kur\u0161 aizraujas ar kravas automa\u0161\u012bn\u0101m, uz tuv\u0113jo b\u016bvlaukumu vai se\u0161gadnieku, kur\u0161 ir princese, uz t\u0113ju.\n<\/p>\n
J\u016bsu uzdevums ir uztur\u0113t saikni ar mazb\u0113rnu vai mazb\u0113rniem. Ja gaid\u012bsiet, ka vi\u0146i to dar\u012bs pa\u0161i, j\u016bs b\u016bsiet v\u012blu\u0161ies un neapmierin\u0101ti.\n<\/p>\n
\"Tas ir vecumam atbilsto\u0161s, lai b\u0113rni b\u016btu vieglpr\u0101t\u012bgi par to, k\u0101 uztur\u0113t kontaktus. Ja tu v\u0113lies izveidot attiec\u012bbas, tev ir j\u0101b\u016bt gatavam dar\u012bt \u0161o darbu,\" saka terapeits O'N\u012bls.\n<\/p>\n
Protams, atcerieties dzim\u0161anas dienas, bet atz\u012bm\u0113jiet ar\u012b citus \u012bpa\u0161us notikumus. Nos\u016btiet Valent\u012bndienas un Helov\u012bna apsveikuma kart\u012btes vai sar\u012bkojiet Valent\u012bndienas vai t\u0113rpu darin\u0101\u0161anas dienu, ja dz\u012bvojat tuvum\u0101. Dokument\u0113jiet \u0161os un citus notikumus ar fotogr\u0101fij\u0101m un video, lai mazb\u0113rns tos atcer\u0113tos.\n<\/p>\n
Uzman\u012bgi sekojiet l\u012bdzi mazb\u0113rna dz\u012bves pav\u0113rsieniem un, ja iesp\u0113jams, l\u016bdziet, lai j\u016bs tiktu pie tiem pieaicin\u0101ts. (\"Vi\u0146\u0161 tikko staig\u0101ja? Vai es varu atn\u0101kt un paskat\u012bties?\", piem\u0113ram.) Atz\u012bstiet sasniegumus, s\u0101kot no iem\u0101c\u012b\u0161an\u0101s braukt ar tr\u012bsriteni un beidzot ar piekt\u0101s klases zin\u0101tnisko izst\u0101di, un l\u016bdziet par\u0101d\u012bt tos.\n<\/p>\n
Pajaut\u0101jiet, vai varat atnest uz m\u0101j\u0101m m\u0101kslas darbus, lai tos izvietotu uz ledusskapja. Apmekl\u0113jiet sporta sp\u0113les, izr\u0101des un deju priek\u0161nesumus. Ska\u013ci uzmundriniet, atnesiet ziedus un p\u0113c tam visus aiciniet uz sald\u0113jumu.\n<\/p>\n
\"Kad j\u016bsu mazb\u0113rns izaugs, vi\u0146\u0161 atcer\u0113sies j\u016bs k\u0101 vecvec\u0101ku, kur\u0161 vienm\u0113r bija kl\u0101t, lai vi\u0146u uzmundrin\u0101tu, un tas ir nenov\u0113rt\u0113jami, \" saka O'Neils. Atceries, ka \u0161\u012b ir tava iesp\u0113ja dar\u012bt to visu no jauna, tikai ar jautraj\u0101m da\u013c\u0101m.\n<\/p>\n
J\u016bs esat svar\u012bgs mazb\u0113rniem, jo pied\u0101v\u0101jat vi\u0146iem alternat\u012bvu skat\u012bjumu, nevis vi\u0146u vec\u0101ku skat\u012bjumu. Uzklausiet un mudiniet vi\u0146us p\u0113c iesp\u0113jas vair\u0101k atv\u0113rties jums. Neierobe\u017eojiet telefona zvanus ar konkr\u0113tiem notikumiem, piem\u0113ram, dzim\u0161anas dien\u0101m un br\u012bvdien\u0101m. T\u0101 viet\u0101 zvaniet visa gada garum\u0101 un uzturiet to vieglu un jautru.\n<\/p>\n
Pirm\u0101 skolas diena, p\u0101rbaudes laiks, liela sp\u0113le vai rota\u013cas ar jaunu draugu - tie visi ir iemesli, lai piezvan\u012btu. Ja varat, izmantojiet videozvanu - tas var b\u016bt daudz jautr\u0101k, ja varat viens otru redz\u0113t.\n<\/p>\n
Sekojiet l\u012bdzi mazb\u0113rna interes\u0113m, v\u0101rdiem, ko vi\u0146\u0161 dod jaun\u0101m lell\u0113m vai pild\u012btiem dz\u012bvniekiem, gr\u0101mat\u0101m, ko vi\u0146\u0161 lasa, - visam, par ko varat pajaut\u0101t n\u0101kamaj\u0101 sarun\u0101, lai vi\u0146\u0161 zin\u0101tu, ka esat tam piev\u0113rsis uzman\u012bbu.\n<\/p>\n
Stereotips par garlaic\u012bgu vecvec\u0101ku, kur\u0161 nemit\u012bgi st\u0101sta par vecajiem labajiem laikiem, ir netaisn\u012bgi licis daudziem vec\u0101kiem cilv\u0113kiem baid\u012bties run\u0101t par \u0123imenes v\u0113sturi, un tas ir zaud\u0113jums visiem.\n<\/p>\n
T\u0101 viet\u0101 lepojieties ar savu \u0123imenes v\u0113sturnieka lomu - j\u016bs nodro\u0161in\u0101siet svar\u012bgu nep\u0101rtraukt\u012bbu starp pag\u0101tni, tagadni un n\u0101kotni. Papildiniet savus st\u0101stus ar humoru un piedz\u012bvojumiem, \u012bsiem un kodol\u012bgiem, un mazb\u0113rni b\u016bs aiz\u0137erti.\n<\/p>\n
Run\u0101jiet par savu dz\u012bvi, bet past\u0101stiet ar\u012b par sava pieaugu\u0161\u0101 b\u0113rna agr\u012bno m\u016b\u017eu. Kad mazb\u0113rns k\u013c\u016bs vec\u0101ks, vi\u0146am patiks dzird\u0113t smiekl\u012bgus st\u0101stus par vec\u0101ku b\u0113rn\u012bb\u0101, tostarp par \u0137ibel\u0113m, varo\u0146darbiem un to, k\u0101da tolaik bija dz\u012bve.\n<\/p>\n
\"Padom\u0101jiet par to, ko j\u016bs varat dot no savas kult\u016bras, v\u0113stures un person\u012bbas - ko j\u016bs varat nodot n\u0101kamajai paaudzei?\" saka \u0123imenes terapeite Krist\u012bne Lavlora.\n<\/p>\n
Un, kad mazb\u0113rni s\u0101ks gatavot v\u0113stures projektus skolai, uzmanies - vi\u0146i grib\u0113s dzird\u0113t visu par tavu dz\u012bvi \"sen\u0101k\" un par to, k\u0101 bija dz\u012bvot notikumos, par kuriem vi\u0146i ir las\u012bju\u0161i tikai gr\u0101mat\u0101s.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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